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Think With A Open Heart - Stefan Neff

Black Or White Without Any Grey Areas In Relationships Are Problematic & A Waste Of Time And Energy!!!

Black Or White Without Any Grey Areas In Relationships Are Problematic & A Waste Of Time And Energy!!!

I know from experience that black and white thinking is so damaging in relationships because I was one of those guys who always thought that everything must be none black or white that means DO OR NOT DO…

Why did I think this way… Well as I was growing up my mother and father were both black or white thinkers. I remember that my father had to do things a certain way and same went the other way my mother had to do her way… This was what I learned as a child, not to blame my parents because that was what they were taught from their parents. 

Go figure monkey see monkey do LOL… 

Well, I was the little monkey learning from the influence in my life!

Who was your influence in your life that was teaching you everything that you are doing in life today that may be causing you major issues in your relationships now? 

Please don’t blame your parents because it is your choice to act on what you believe was the truth. You have your own choices that you make or made in your life right — We all have to take responsibility for our actions in life, even the ones that cause us hardships and painful moments in life. 

Do we have choices in our life, “YES WE DO” We can think and act badly towards others… We have choices to be angry, sad or even get upset at the ones who hurt us. Taking responsibility for all that happens to us and for us is one thing that can shift towards a grey way of thinking… 

Why is it important to be in the grey to save your relationships?

Well, this is why… If you want to right means Black all the time then there is room for the one whom you love!!!

If you want to say all or nothing then you may run into many more issues then you bargained for… I know the truth because I was that GUY LOL but no so funny when I didn’t know what to do when my wife got very upset with me I ran out the door and started to use alcohol to cope with the problem. 

Now I know what I was doing and am able to think on the grey side of life. “I DON’T NEED ALCOHOL ANY MORE”!!

No one can change my life… No one can make the choice for me until I faced the truth about how I was thinking!!

If you are thinking BLACK OR WHITE, let me help you fix that issue because I know how too…

The other option is to keep doing what you know best and live in what I call turmoil without any solution…

What do you want?

Who do you want to be?

Black Or White?

Do you really want to move into the grey area of life?

The choice is yours of course? 

I made my choice to change the way I do everything in my life…

Do You Have The Courage To Change Your Life To GREY!!!

You can contact us via email at stefanneff53@gmail.com or text me at 778-551-0419 to find out more about creating happiness in your relationship with yourself and others…

 

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Number #1 Relationship Coaching Team – With Stefan Neff & Tomoko Ota Neff

Relationship With Yourself Is So Important…

Why am I seeking love and acceptance from others!!

The best way I know how to express what I am feeling inside my thoughts are to tell you everything I know about happiness…

Why was self-acceptance so so very important to my happiness in the past?
Because my cup of happiness was half empty… – my heart was so lonely with sadness as a child, yes I had so many moments of fun and enjoyment but the sadness overpowered my happy times. Why, because I wanted to feel the love of others.

I wanted to be accepted by others no matter what!

These feeling had overpowered my life on a daily basis throughout my life, always seeking love well, I think we all want to be loved at some point in our lives.

My truth is I didn’t love myself enough to fill my own tank of self-love and care within my life on a daily basis.

That’s why I wasn’t happy…

No god or anyone else could make me happy — I am the only one that could fill my cup up towards happiness…

How do I expect anyone else to give me what I want when I didn’t give it to myself — hmmm… sounds like I was expecting others to make me happy — “YES” well, it was me that was stopping myself from happiness!!

Are you waiting for someone to make you happy? — well, you may wait forever for that to happen in your lifetime, that’s the truth because for those who wait for love will always be disappointed when love doesn’t COME…

What is the measurements of happiness to you?

Is it how many friends you have… Is it how big your house is!!
How nice your car is… well, you may wait for a lifetime for happiness to come into your life if are thinking that way!!

Do you want to wait for a lifetime for self-acceptance or do want to learn how to create your own self-care within yourself…
“Good question I said to the person looking back at me in the mirror of life”!

I believe we all have choices in life towards a happy life…
My question is to you is, when is your happiness coming into your life?

If your answer I don’t know… then that may be the time to accept that happiness isn’t for you!!

If you are waiting for a magical potion to show up on your doorstep from Amazon then you will never be happy… well, that what I was doing in my life, I was waiting for years and years for happiness to show up from somewhere else than within my own heart and soul!!!

Answer these question…

Do you have the courage to be happy?

Do you want to know happiness?

Are you willing to do anything towards happiness?

Would you spend time on yourself?

Would you ask someone to help you help yourself with happiness?

Do you agree or is happiness NOT on your bucket list???

To help you help yourself, my Wife, & I have created a process that works 100% Guaranteed…

We made a choice in our lives to be happy!!

We also know what anger, sadness and unhappiness feelings are all about because we hated life each other and people around us. Until we made a choice to be happy…

You can contact us via email at stefanneff53@gmail.com or text me at 778-551-0419 to find out more about creating happiness in your relationship with yourself and others…

 

Stefan Oskar Neff Big Bang Soundcloud Podcast

Big Bang Sound Podcast Episode #5 Season Three – The Crazy Life We Live Hosted By Stefan Oskar Neff

 

Welcome too Breakthrough To Success: The Real Truth. This podcast is devoted to getting people and families to be massively successful in all areas of their life. I want you to get ahead, no matter what your circumstances are, and this podcast is going to assist you with understanding exactly how to do that. Learn to build a very successful mindset, a successful family, and a successful you, all at the same time. Each week has a different focus: Week #1: The first week of each month is going to be devoted to self-empowering mindset. Really getting your mind in the game because your mindset is the most important part to being massively successful in your family life.  I’m going to bring on successful ideas that will help people faced the challenges of growing a powerful mindset for people to help themselves to the next level of clear clarity You’re going to learn from me what it takes to get where you want to be.

Our Mission – To create dynamic, easy to follow systems of coaching programs, sessions, groups and systems for people with addictive behaviours that create a powerful learning environment both in personal growth and life skills and inner knowledge of self-acceptance. To abstain from addictive behaviours and grow their mindset to outrageous levels of success. 

Why -There is a ton of struggling and suffering surrounding addictive behaviours today that is impacting people’s financial situations and families. Addictive behaviours in families lives are continually being destroyed because of addictions. It does not have to be this way and through our mission, we want to change the statistic of slipping and failing in the first 45 days of recovery to 99% being successful and having an amazingly positive influence on society and our communities.

Our Vision -To be the world leader and chosen authority in understanding and adding soul and heart into individuals lives, and to dramatically impact the success rate of addictive behaviours through influential relationship building. To improve the inner growth of individuals and the sustainability of abstinence to enhance the life of our clients and their family and the communities that support them.

Podcast Music By:

https://soundcloud.com/vexento

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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Ssvu2yncgWU

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The Power of Making a Decision | Jack Canfield

 

Every moment of every day, we make decisions. The outcome of your day, your year, and your entire life are mostly defined by the sum of the decisions that you make and the actions that you take along the way. http://bit.ly/2U7C4jb

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Napoleon Hill Your Right to Be Rich by Napoleon Hill Audiobook FULL

Napoleon Hill – Chapter 1- Definiteness of Purpose – Think Your Way to Wealth

 

This audio treasury of wisdom. Think Your Way to Wealth captures Napoleon Hill’s first encounter with Andrew Carnegie, who revealed the money-attracting strategy that Hill later made popular in classic books like Think and Grow Rich and The Law of Success. To buy the book or audio visit the link – http://amzn.to/2nNSATD In 1908, while working as a reporter for an inspirational magazine, Hill landed an interview with industrial giant, Andrew Carnegie. Hill had just one key question for the magnate: What is the secret to your success? Carnegie’s response electrified Hill and launched him on a lifelong mission to distill the steps to success into a clear, definite protocol that could be used by any motivated person. Think Your Way to Wealth captures Carnegie’s initial advice, how-to’s, practical steps, and concrete directions-all of which formed the basis for Hill’s groundbreaking books, and jump-started the field of business motivation. Napoleon Hill was born in 1883 in a one-room cabin on the Pound River in Wise County, Virginia. He began his writing career at age 13 as a “mountain reporter” for small town newspapers and went on to become America’s most beloved motivational author. He passed away in November 1970 after a long and successful career writing, teaching, and lecturing about the principles of success. Hill established the Napoleon Hill Foundation as a non-profit educational institution whose mission is to perpetuate his philosophy of leadership, self-motivation, and individual achievement. Napoleon Hill was born in Wise County, Virginia. He began his writing career at age 13 as a “mountain reporter” for small town newspapers and went on to become America’s most beloved motivational author. His work stands as a monument to individual achievement and is the cornerstone of modern motivation. His most famous work, Think and Grow Rich, is one of the best-selling books of all time. Hill established the Foundation as a nonprofit educational institution whose mission is to perpetuate his philosophy of leadership, self-motivation, and individual achievement. If you have read all of Napoleon Hill’s books, heard his lecture from the audio called “Your Right To Be Rich,” then you know how valuable his information is. This book is no different, what is contained in this book will give you a clear look into the two of the greatest minds in history. Those minds are, Napoleon Hill and Andrew Carnegie. Hill asked questions to Carnegie, which Carnegie gives Hill deep, thought-provoking answers that give you clear cut answers. Carnegie tells you how to develop faith, how to take control of your own mind to attract the things you want in your life. You get step by step instructions on how to use the Law of Attraction clearly without all the mumbo jumbo and confusion that are out there on the topic of Law of Attraction. I think this should have been released before Think and Grow Rich, this book seems to compliment all the later work. It just ties things up to make you completely understand things on a deeper level. There is so much information in this book that it is priceless and timeless. UPDATE: I just wanted to update my review of this product. In my honest opinion, this information should be read before Think and Grow Rich. The reason I say that is because in this PRICELESS interview, Carnegie gives the exact secrets on how to get anything you want in a step by step formula. I have been listening to this in my car on the way to work, the more I listen to this, I feel like I am right there in the interview as if it is happening. It gives me insights on how to improve in areas where I might be off slightly in doing the right step(s) to get to where I need to go. Carnegie understood this information so well that by the time I’m finished listening to this audio, I seem to understand certain sections more clearly. It is hard to explain, but if you’re serious about success in any area of your life, you owe it to yourself to buy this audio if you don’t have time to buy the book or kindle. Plus, just by listening to the audio, you’re reprogramming your subconscious mind for success. If you listen to it long enough, it will just start becoming a part of you to the point where you start doing the right things to get you on track to achieve your goals.

Breakthrough To Recovery With Thank You Life 101

Why Did Drugs Feed My Pain?

Why Did Drugs Feed My Pain

 

Chapter 2

 

With what I thought would be good for my pains wasn’t always good for my soul in the long-term race to the end result that I was looking for. What were the issues that I was craving in my life? Well, the one most important thing I wanted was to be loved, I needed acceptances from my parents so much I could taste it in the drug that consumed me at the age of thirteen years old. The trap had been set in my thoughts and overpowered my brain that was shaping me up to be a needy person, I was always seeking attention from others to fill my cup with love. I was a lonely child when sitting in my room late at night, I remember always turning on the heater when my parents went to sleep. The noise of the Furness soothed my loneliness as if my mother was holding me in her arms. I use to go into the basement and even turn on the clothes dryer to get the warmth and sounds so I never felt alone. I would fall asleep on top of the dryer and even in the middle of the night. I would repeat the same patterns into my teens even when I smoked drugs, the pain wouldn’t go away from my thoughts. I even tried to use warm milk at night but all that did was make me wet my bed. You see I was a bedwetter for most of young life, from the ages of three years old and up to the age of fourteen or so give or take a few years. I was ridiculed as a child for being a bedwetter from my parents most of all the neighbourhood kids in my small elementary school that I attended. I hated the feeling of being teased as a child. I would cry myself to sleep most nights. I noticed when I started to smoke cigarettes at thirteen I was king of my own destiny, I could feel strong as if I couldn’t be hurt. Then when drugs came into my life, the pain was starting to disappear but as soon as the high went away the pain came right back the next morning. I never knew then that I was in the circle of no return but at least I knew the pain would go away for a little while. Yes, that is what I said the drugs worked only for the short term pain just like prescription drugs that doctors prescribe to their patients when they are hiding from there inner pains. I truly believe that pain comes from our past thoughts that we create every day we are here on this planet. When I was a kid I wanted to be heard from my parents, but I was told to mind my own business and just do what you are told. Do your homework do your chores and we can talk about it later. I waited for the talk but the talk never came. What the heck is going on I thought to myself, I did my work so when can I get what I asked for? I never believed that I deserved anything that I asked for in life. I only got what was provided to me. Was this all there was in life a bucket full of promises from the people who had raised me and was supposed to love me unconditionally? Why me I thought, am I that bad am I not worth it be given what I asked for in life. I couldn’t understand the whole scheme of life as I was growing up.  I only knew if I could only please them more I could receive more love and appreciation from my parents. Ok enough doom and gloom about my childhood, let’s talk business now!

 

How to stop the doom and gloom in life? I will tell you that life is very hard when YOU MAKE IT HARD!! Life can be and will be fun when you open up to new possibilities towards what you want not what you don’t want to happen in life. If you want joy and happiness you will receive it when you let go of fears that is holding you back from those most joyful moments in life. There might be roadblocks in your way but those are to make you stronger. If you think they are to stop you from what you want then you will stop moving towards your ultimate goal and that is happiness.

 

I always thought people were trying to hurt me so they were because I wanted to receive pain in my life. I wanted people to feel sorry for me when I was a small child so people did just that. I got what I asked for in my life for so many years. My plan worked out just as I laid it out. I would wet my bed to receive attention from my parents. I would fail my classes in school to have people feel sorry for me, to look upon me as if there was something wrong with me. I got it right the first time, I did get my pleasure of having my parents see me as a dysfunctional little boy that couldn’t do anything right.

 

I needed my parents for my pleasure to feel this way for most of my life even up until I was 40 years old. I never understood this until I found a solution to my life.

 

Chapter 3 will be coming tomorrow evening!!!

 

Breakthrough To Recovery With Thank You Life 101

I Started Drinking At Three Years Old…

I Started Drinking At Three Years Old

 

Chapter 1

As life began for me, so was my drinking that wasn’t far behind, as of the age of three years old I had taken my first drink of the holy wine. I remember it like it was yesterday, my mother enjoyed a glass or two of wine on certain occasions, and I was like the family pet waiting for the crumbs to drop off the table but for this wasn’t food I was enjoying it was the yummy wine from the flower of dandelions, the most wonderful tasting wine I have ever tasted, because it was the only wine my parents made. I couldn’t understand why I enjoyed this flavour from the juices of nature, but something was so delicious about the feeling that the wine had given me.  Nobody was the wiser about what I was doing, as if the world never knew, for this was the beginning of a long road to an addiction that carried forth for many years. I couldn’t stop this feeling that the wine gave me. I never understood the true reason why I wanted to drink until later in my life. I will tell you from the days of the 1970s the world through my eyes was covered with a dark haze that clouded my thoughts, that always moved me into never-never land. I felt like a cartoon character from the bugs bunny show when my mind was filled with alcohol. If you can imagine when you may have been watching cartoons back in the day, they were much different then the animation we have now out in the world wide web today. All the cartoons I watched had bugs bunny being chased down by so many characters like the hunter Elmer Fudd that always said it’s rabbit season or Yosemite Sam that said I hate that rabbit and my favourite Tasmanian Devil that never spoke but wanted to eat Bugs Bunny in every episode that they were in together. Yes, we always cheered for Bugs every time. I always wonder why they were hunting or trying to eat him, I was maybe three years old when I first watch this cartoon. I had so many influences throughout my life, but I remember this the most. My mind was shaped by what I had seen and heard from the TV screen. I believe that my mind was altered in such a warped way. I now know why the world seems to be so cold and dark and screwed up. I am not blaming the TV for my life and all that I have done to hurt people but what we see and hear shapes who we are in our adult life. I believe that we as individuals need to take 100% responsibility for our action in life. I do understand that now, but when I was wee little one I wasn’t taught how to take responsibility. I always looked at what I did like someone else’s fault. Who did I see in my life that was showing me the ways of the world and how to treat people, well my parents, but they only knew what they were taught by their parents and so on down the line. By blaming them for my life now, is absolutely crazy. I created my life, I picked my parents they didn’t pick me. If I understood correctly we have thoughts, feeling and create our outcomings in life. By blaming the cartoons I watched, that means I didn’t take responsibility for my life as a child. I didn’t know how to see the world in a different way until I started to see myself first. This isn’t why I started drinking alcohol but this why I now look at my life with an open heart.

My Mission

 

“I am Stefan Oskar Neff and I am on a mission to help people help themselves find solutions to create clear clarity surrounding drug and alcohol addictions that may be stopping people from living the life that they always wanted and dreamed of having towards the future they desire”.  This all starts with our children and how they see the world. We as a human race have a right to live a meaningful life without roadblocks stopping our children from living a life of joy and happiness. By seeing ourselves for who we want to be, this is the truth of success in the world we live in today. What the future hold is up to us…

What he will get from our sessions…

1. The real reason why you needs to drink. (It’s not anxious feelings or stress)

2. Why you wants to have anxious & depressed feelings.

3. How the Subconscious Mind (Universe) works.

4. How to get rid of the (real reason)…