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How To Let Go Of Self Guilt In Your Relationships

How To Let Go Of Self Guilt In Your Relationships

Can you release guilt from our mind and soul?

YES, when you are committed to releasing and facing guilt head-on with such a powerful force!

No, if you want to hold onto the feeling that guilt gives you!! That may be exactly why guilt doesn’t go away.

Sometimes you have to forgive yourself for what we did in the past. And begin the process to be able to forgive others that have hurt you in the past.

If you are unable to say “YES” you can never have peace of mind from your guilty thoughts.

7 Healing Ways You Can Deal With Guilt That Will Help You Feel Much Healthier
1. Understanding Your Purpose For Your Guilt. …
2. Seeing If You’re Measuring Yourself To Others Expectations Of Your Guilt. …
3. Checking Yourself: See If The Guilt You Are Feeling Is Rational Or Irrational. …
4. Talk It Out With A Loved One Or Relationship Coach. …
5. Focus Your Attention On What You Can Do Now Instead Of What You Can’t Do. …
6. Remember: This Doesn’t Mean You Should Punish Yourself For What You Did. …
7. Yes, Let It Go. But Face Why You Feel These Guilty Feelings. …

Effects of Guilty Feelings.

The debilitating sense of guilt that so many people feel isn’t just unhealthy for the psyche; it’s tremendous for an unhealthy mindset.
And that’s just part of what guilt does to us.”It [guilt] also contributing factor to cardiovascular issues and stomach problems as well. It can also have a negative impact on our relationships over many years of feeling guilty,”

If you have the courage to release your guilt please reach out and ask me how I released my guilt within my life.

To work with us contact me via email at stefanneff53@gmail.com or text me at 778-551-0419 to find out more about creating happiness in your relationship with yourself and others.

Thank You from Stefan Neff

Thank You from Stefan Neff

The Things That Upset Us Are The Missing Puzzle Pieces To Our Happiness - Stefan Neff

The Things That Upset Us Are The Missing Puzzle Pieces To Our Happiness

The Things That Upset Us Are The Missing Puzzle Pieces To Our Happiness…

Why was this so important in my life?

When we look at the truth with open eyes we will find the real reason why!

I asked myself many open-ended questions about upsetting feeling in my life from the past! So what did I find out about? 

I was rejecting all the painful moments that caused me fear and anxiousness throughout my adult life… This is why I had such emotional feelings towards others that I thought were hurting me. The truth be told I brought that upon myself why that person was hurting ME!!

I always say, no one can hurt me unless I allow them too!!

Until I started to face that truth I would always have upsetting feelings in my life!!

When We Face The Truth Joy & Happiness Always follows!!!

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The Perception Of Others Is What Held Me Back From A Successful Relationship With My Wife

Mindset Is crucial towards the life we desire

Mindset Is crucial towards the life we desire

Why is Mindset important? Well, as humans go we think and behave from the way we feel by the events that happen in our lives!! We decided to get hurt, angry and even strike back at others for hurting our feelings!! The only person that can hurt us is ourselves! You can believe it OR not but it is the truth… 

Why do you think war starts or relationships fall apart, it’s because of the perception of the event that has created the feeling or belief in the first place that becomes our outcome in life…

Just imagine if we knew what was causing the feelings that started every argument in the world and we knew how to deal with it… the world would be in a better space then now… 

There would be less than nothing to argue about… WOW, that would be something to see if we were able to live like that on a daily basis… hmmmmm…

Just imagine what your life would be like if you could process your thoughts that caused your unhappiness! Well, there would be a whole bunch of people walking around with permanent smiles on their faces… LOL 

There would be so much laughing going on in our lives or the world for matter without fear of judgement or negative influences in life… When we look at ourselves as the person who is creating everything that happens to us and for us… Life would be so much happier than if we didn’t take responsibility for our thoughts and feelings and behaviours!!!

What do you want in your life?

Do you want more skills to deal with issues or problems in your life?

If your answer is “NO WAY SIR I CAN DO IT ALL ON MY OWN” then that is your answer to stay where you are at NOW!!!

Well if your answer is “YES I WANT TO CREATE CHANGE IN MY LIFE!! 

Then let’s talk about what my wife and I can create to help you HELP YOURSELF…

Do You Have The Courage To Think differently???

You can contact us via email at stefanneff53@gmail.com or text me at 778-551-0419 to find out more about creating happiness in your relationship with yourself and others…

Change Your Perception Change Your Outcomes - Stefan Neff

The Perception Of Others Is What Held Me Back From A Successful Relationship With My Wife

The Perception Of Others Is What Held Me Back From A Successful Relationship With My Wife

So this is how it went down in our house!! So many years ago, I would think I was right and she was wrong – well, that was my perception of how I thought the truth was, but on her side of the coin was something totally different.

I had only picked out what I wanted to see and was blinded by the real truth of the situation.

Why was I thinking this way?

I didn’t want to face what I was doing. I could only see the front side of the two-sided coin. Means there is always two sides to every story.

When I looked at my life from my eyes today I can see what and how I was thinking, WOW what a close-minded MAN I was — My thoughts were on the protection of my self bride and NOT on the real truth.
The event in life lead to – “THOUGHTS” that lead to “FEELINGS” follows how we “BEHAVE” = “OUTCOMES”

This formula of life is the freedom that I needed to release my perception of the events that happened in my life…

Why is this formula so powerful to use to create change in life? Well, now I can understand where my feelings are coming from and I can solve the major problems that occur in my life today!!

YES, the situation does pop-up time to time that causes me to have perception issues. Then new habit on problem-solving springs into action and with practice, patience and persistence come relief after a few minutes…
What are you doing to solve your issues that pop into your life?

What are you doing to fix your perceptions of the events that are causing you problems in your relationships?

Would you use this FORMULA “E-T-F-B=O” “EVENTS – THOUGHTS – FEELINGS – BEHAVIOURS = OUTCOMES” to fix your problems in your relationships???

If you want to know how this formula works and how to implement into your life when the problem occurs then we can work together in finding the right path towards your happiness today…

Do You Have The Courage To Perceive Life In A New LIGHT??

You can contact us via email at stefanneff53@gmail.com or text me at 778-551-0419 to find out more about creating happiness in your relationship with yourself and others…

Think With A Open Heart - Stefan Neff

Black Or White Without Any Grey Areas In Relationships Are Problematic & A Waste Of Time And Energy!!!

Black Or White Without Any Grey Areas In Relationships Are Problematic & A Waste Of Time And Energy!!!

I know from experience that black and white thinking is so damaging in relationships because I was one of those guys who always thought that everything must be none black or white that means DO OR NOT DO…

Why did I think this way… Well as I was growing up my mother and father were both black or white thinkers. I remember that my father had to do things a certain way and same went the other way my mother had to do her way… This was what I learned as a child, not to blame my parents because that was what they were taught from their parents. 

Go figure monkey see monkey do LOL… 

Well, I was the little monkey learning from the influence in my life!

Who was your influence in your life that was teaching you everything that you are doing in life today that may be causing you major issues in your relationships now? 

Please don’t blame your parents because it is your choice to act on what you believe was the truth. You have your own choices that you make or made in your life right — We all have to take responsibility for our actions in life, even the ones that cause us hardships and painful moments in life. 

Do we have choices in our life, “YES WE DO” We can think and act badly towards others… We have choices to be angry, sad or even get upset at the ones who hurt us. Taking responsibility for all that happens to us and for us is one thing that can shift towards a grey way of thinking… 

Why is it important to be in the grey to save your relationships?

Well, this is why… If you want to right means Black all the time then there is room for the one whom you love!!!

If you want to say all or nothing then you may run into many more issues then you bargained for… I know the truth because I was that GUY LOL but no so funny when I didn’t know what to do when my wife got very upset with me I ran out the door and started to use alcohol to cope with the problem. 

Now I know what I was doing and am able to think on the grey side of life. “I DON’T NEED ALCOHOL ANY MORE”!!

No one can change my life… No one can make the choice for me until I faced the truth about how I was thinking!!

If you are thinking BLACK OR WHITE, let me help you fix that issue because I know how too…

The other option is to keep doing what you know best and live in what I call turmoil without any solution…

What do you want?

Who do you want to be?

Black Or White?

Do you really want to move into the grey area of life?

The choice is yours of course? 

I made my choice to change the way I do everything in my life…

Do You Have The Courage To Change Your Life To GREY!!!

You can contact us via email at stefanneff53@gmail.com or text me at 778-551-0419 to find out more about creating happiness in your relationship with yourself and others…


Be The One Who Loves

Number #1 Relationship Coaching Team – With Stefan Neff & Tomoko Ota Neff

Relationship With Yourself Is So Important…

Why am I seeking love and acceptance from others!!

The best way I know how to express what I am feeling inside my thoughts are to tell you everything I know about happiness…

Why was self-acceptance so so very important to my happiness in the past?
Because my cup of happiness was half empty… – my heart was so lonely with sadness as a child, yes I had so many moments of fun and enjoyment but the sadness overpowered my happy times. Why, because I wanted to feel the love of others.

I wanted to be accepted by others no matter what!

These feeling had overpowered my life on a daily basis throughout my life, always seeking love well, I think we all want to be loved at some point in our lives.

My truth is I didn’t love myself enough to fill my own tank of self-love and care within my life on a daily basis.

That’s why I wasn’t happy…

No god or anyone else could make me happy — I am the only one that could fill my cup up towards happiness…

How do I expect anyone else to give me what I want when I didn’t give it to myself — hmmm… sounds like I was expecting others to make me happy — “YES” well, it was me that was stopping myself from happiness!!

Are you waiting for someone to make you happy? — well, you may wait forever for that to happen in your lifetime, that’s the truth because for those who wait for love will always be disappointed when love doesn’t COME…

What is the measurements of happiness to you?

Is it how many friends you have… Is it how big your house is!!
How nice your car is… well, you may wait for a lifetime for happiness to come into your life if are thinking that way!!

Do you want to wait for a lifetime for self-acceptance or do want to learn how to create your own self-care within yourself…
“Good question I said to the person looking back at me in the mirror of life”!

I believe we all have choices in life towards a happy life…
My question is to you is, when is your happiness coming into your life?

If your answer I don’t know… then that may be the time to accept that happiness isn’t for you!!

If you are waiting for a magical potion to show up on your doorstep from Amazon then you will never be happy… well, that what I was doing in my life, I was waiting for years and years for happiness to show up from somewhere else than within my own heart and soul!!!

Answer these question…

Do you have the courage to be happy?

Do you want to know happiness?

Are you willing to do anything towards happiness?

Would you spend time on yourself?

Would you ask someone to help you help yourself with happiness?

Do you agree or is happiness NOT on your bucket list???

To help you help yourself, my Wife, & I have created a process that works 100% Guaranteed…

We made a choice in our lives to be happy!!

We also know what anger, sadness and unhappiness feelings are all about because we hated life each other and people around us. Until we made a choice to be happy…

You can contact us via email at stefanneff53@gmail.com or text me at 778-551-0419 to find out more about creating happiness in your relationship with yourself and others…


Stefan Oskar Neff Big Bang Soundcloud Podcast

Big Bang Sound Podcast Episode #8 Season Three – Clear Vision For Success


Welcome too Breakthrough To Success: The Real Truth. This podcast is devoted to getting people and families to be massively successful in all areas of their life. I want you to get ahead, no matter what your circumstances are, and this podcast is going to assist you with understanding exactly how to do that. Learn to build a very successful mindset, a successful family, and a successful you, all at the same time. Each week has a different focus: Week #1: The first week of each month is going to be devoted to self-empowering mindset. Really getting your mind in the game because your mindset is the most important part to being massively successful in your family life.  I’m going to bring on successful ideas that will help people faced the challenges of growing a powerful mindset for people to help themselves to the next level of clear clarity You’re going to learn from me what it takes to get where you want to be.

Our Mission – To create dynamic, easy to follow systems of coaching programs, sessions, groups and systems for people with addictive behaviours that create a powerful learning environment both in personal growth and life skills and inner knowledge of self-acceptance. To abstain from addictive behaviours and grow their mindset to outrageous levels of success. 

Why -There is a ton of struggling and suffering surrounding addictive behaviours today that is impacting people’s financial situations and families. Addictive behaviours in families lives are continually being destroyed because of addictions. It does not have to be this way and through our mission, we want to change the statistic of slipping and failing in the first 45 days of recovery to 99% being successful and having an amazingly positive influence on society and our communities.

Our Vision -To be the world leader and chosen authority in understanding and adding soul and heart into individuals lives, and to dramatically impact the success rate of addictive behaviours through influential relationship building. To improve the inner growth of individuals and the sustainability of abstinence to enhance the life of our clients and their family and the communities that support them.

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